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Good Vs Bad, Focus On The Good In People Rather Than On The Bad
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Good versus Bad refer to people who always seem to find a way to highlight the bad points in a person or keep on reflecting on the bad that might have happened rather than to focus on the positive side which will ultimately help toward a solution.
The majority of people in our society are negative and that is why they lack prosperity. Prosperity and creativity only come to people who are positive in their why of thought.
What you need to do is acknowledge your self worth and to see the worth in others. Always think about the good in yourself and others. That is a starting point that can set you on a path to an improved you and will enlighten the people around you and influence them to also want to be like you.
You should learn to express your emotion with dignity.
I have learned that there are two models:
1. Reactive Model
2. Pro Active Model
The reactive model focus on what is wrong and all that is negative.
Each model has there own results which I am going to explore a little. The reactive model results in separation, fear, intimidation, exploitation, domination, and punishment.
Pro Active on the other hand focus on what is right and positive.
The pro active results in participation, joy, appreciation, caring, co-creation and praise.
The majority of people think about themselves as not being of worth or not being enough or somebody that can make a difference or that they do not matter.
What people should do to enhance their pro activeness is to look in the mirror and to tell themselves that they do matter, that they can make a difference and then to tell themselves this on a daily basis.
I would like to share with you a little story about myself which is relevant to this subject that I am addressing in this article. I was 25 years old and my dad had been diagnosed with cancer. I would positively influence him with uplifting material that I would read to him. We would pray together and read the bible.
Some of the other family members would come visit and tell him about other cancer patients that they knew about and they would tell him all about their suffering and pain that they were enduring. This would make me furious because all the good that I had build and that made my dad feel better and with a more positive attitude would be taken away in one visit and he would become so depressed.
Needless to say, at that time of my life I had to struggle to stay positive myself but God took me by the hand at I got through it. It was also during this time that I had an accident with riding my mountain bike and I tore my shoulder ligaments.
I went for a ride with my mountain bike one Saturday morning and approximately 2 km from my home, I slipped on gravel with my slick tires and landed head first on the tar road. I never had a helmet on and I was traveling at 30 km per hour.
Luckily there were no other cars behind me. After I fell, I got up immediately and my first reaction was to inspect my bicycle for damages. The back and front wheel were buckled and a little bit of paint had come off the frame. It is at this point that I realized that something was wrong with my shoulder.
It got very swollen in a matter of minutes and was hurting quite a bit. Any way, I got on my bicycle and cycled home very slowly and it seemed like an eternity for me to get home. The whole way home I thought to myself: “What is dad going to say? This could not have come at a worst time.”
At this point he was having radium treatment and I had to physically pick him up sometimes because he became so weak. How was I going to do this. This is the time that he needed me most and now I only have one good arm to assist him with.
By the time that I got home, it was just about lunch time and I quickly told my mom and dad that I had to go out for a little while with the car.
I did not explain the reason why I suddenly had to go out again. I took the car and I went to our physician to basically confirm what I had already suspected that I had torn shoulder ligaments.
After his examination, he told me that I had torn shoulder ligaments and that I would have to keep my arm in a sling for six weeks. Then and there I decided that this is not a option for me but I did not tell him that.
I went home and on the way I thought about a way how to break this news to my dad and mom. My dad and I were very close. Sometimes we knew what the other was thinking and finished each other’s sentences.
I got home and told my parents what had happened and what the doctor had said about the sling. My dad said to me: “Now look at you, you will never be able to do karate, weight training, swim and be able to do all the things you used to be able to do any more. Your arm will never be the same again. I am sick and how are you going to help me get in and out the car, onto the the bed and help me to walk?”
I just felt extremely angry, frustrated and depressed for the duration that I had listened to what my dad had to say. I was not angry at him, I was angry at myself for allowing myself to put myself in the position that I went for a ride with my bike and did not fore see that I needed to slow down when I approached the gravel area on the road. All this could have been prevented.
This had to have happened though because it taught me a valuable lesson in life. After listening to all that my dad had said, my mom helped me to put my arm in a sling. I wore it that afternoon and evening.
That evening, I made a decision that I am not going to keep my arm in a sling but that I would start rehabilitating my shoulder starting the next day.
Having studied several books on anatomy and including pressure points and knowing about the manipulation of limbs in jujitsu, I used this knowledge to move and stretch my arm into all the directions that I normally could do by using a stick at times to stretch my arm the furthest it could go behind my back etc.
I also used a 5kg weight and assisted with my healthy arm when lifting.
By day two, I was able to do press ups again. I would spend 2 to 3 hours a day doing this and I also made use of ointment and a infra red heat lamp to apply heat to the area that would let circulation improve in the area so that the swelling would go away quicker as well as remove the toxins that has accumulated in the shoulder area.
Cut a long story short. My arm has returned back to normal. Since this has happened I have acquired my shodan in Goju Kai, managed to swim 4km consecutively by doing 80 lengths in an Olympic pool and I have taken part in a body building competition once and took 4th place in the novice category.
These were all things that I had been told that I would never be able to accomplish. There is a lesson to be learned in this story and it is that it is up to you to decide what your reality is going to be. It does not matter what other people think or say about you.
What matters is what you believe about yourself and what you do about it.
Do not let other people make your decision for you. Make your own decision to become successful in what ever it is that you aspire to achieve and go for it with out limitations.
As mentioned earlier, go for good and see the good in yourself and others. Seek knowledge and empower yourself to become the best you can be because you just do not realize it yet, you can make a difference, you are special and unique and you have got worth or else you would not be on this planet.
Discover what your purpose in this world is by providing service to people and make them realize that they are important and that they do matter already, create worth in yourself by seeing it in others and in doing so make a difference to peoples lives.
You are a little less than an Angel as the Word says and if the Word says so, who are people to tell you any different?
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